CA Prop 8

There’s a lot of anger spreading from the passage of Prop 8 here in California. To be honest, I find myself doubting the sensibilities of my fellow Californians who voted yes for this mistake. However, I am more worried about the rage that is boiling from those who voted No.

What we need now is not conflict, but a redoubled effort for change. I can only imagine that many people voted yes on 8 because they do not or cannot see the shared humanity in us all. When people understand their neighbors we will have equality. So, rather than blame and fight, I ask that you share and embrace those who could not see.

Nobody disagrees with Ghandi or MLK jr. right? Let’s start there:

“I want freedom for the full expression of my personality.”

“You must be the change you want to see in the world.”

“Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress.”

- Mahatma Ghandi

“Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.”

“I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. That is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.”

“Let no man pull you low enough to hate him.”

- Dr. Martin Luther King jr.

We will see change.

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4 Responses to CA Prop 8

  1. Andrew says:

    A friend of mine said, paraphrased: “The encouraging thing is that a lot of straight people who didn’t know they were allies just assumed that it would get struck down. I mean it’s just so obviously wrong. Then when they woke up on Nov. 5th and looked around they were shocked, horrified, and confused in the sad simple way that decent people get. And all the gay people went, ‘welcome to the party, this is what we’ve been screaming about for our entire lives.’”

    Change can come. I am encouraged by several things.

    1) The iGeneration is waking up. And finding out we don’t have to outlive the bigots anymore, we out number them. And we may have been distracted or confused this time. But we won’t be next time.

    2) We have a leader who has shown us any change is possible. We CAN change the minds and hearts of those around us.

    3) Technology works. But facebook shows us people work better. We need to cut inroads into the minds and hearts of those who were not affected. Who took away from others because it didn’t change their rights. Show them how connected we are, make it their lives that are effected, and show them how. I have yet to meet a bigot that survived finding out that friends and family disagreed with them.

    Change can come.

    Prop 8, you won this time. But the battle is far from over. See you in two years motherfucker.

  2. Judy says:

    Gosh, now that you made a whole post about it, I HAVE to participate :P

  3. Pandora says:

    Change will come, and until then the blaming and the hatred is certainly counterproductive. However, there’s a difference between hatred and bitterness, and taking a moment to be enraged, sad, etc. A lot of people poured their hearts and souls into this fight, and have just gotten knocked flat on their asses. We will get up, we will keep fighting, and we will eventually overcome, but first we need a moment to grieve and be angry before continuing the fight.

  4. Bjorn says:

    Ok so I think what a lot of people who voted against proposition 8 don’t understand is why people might have voted for it. It wasn’t necessarily out of bigotry, but because marriage for them is a religious thing. Many people have compared intolerance to gay marriage to intolerance to interracial marriage, and I don’t think it is the same thing when you look at it from the perspective of an evangelical. Evangelicals see this country as a Christian country, they don’t buy the separation of church and state interpretation, and they see gay marriage as a clear violation of church doctrine.

    Now you and I we may disagree with this, but calling others bigots and calling their deeply held values into question, values about god and family that is their right to believe and cherish, is counterproductive.

    Personally I believe two things:

    That people’s private lives and how they wish to define their own family is not the business of any outsider.

    Marriage has no place in government. Marriage laws are a violation of the church and state separation doctrine. We don’t live in Japan where we register households, our democracy has chosen to not discriminate based on religious beliefs. I believe that all marriages should in law simply be civil unions, and that if people want to get ‘married’ then they can go to the church or spiritual place of choice and have the ceremony of their chosing.

    It’s not the governments place to legitimize beliefs.

    It’s inevitable that California will allow gay marriage at some point, I think.

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